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So I was watching that video and it just kinda got me thinking. Not so much thinking about gay marriage and Prop. 8 and all that, more on the parenting thing.

For marriage, it would be nice if I could marry the guy I end up with, but I don’t feel I really need it. I mean I don’t need a ring or some big ceremony or whatever to show I love someone. Really, the only reason I care at all is because I can in a way feel a bit for the gay couples out there that would like to marry. Like I said, I don’t care if I can marry or not, but for the ones who want to, I know that it does mean a lot to them and for that reason I want them to be able to have the right. It’s completely unfair and contradictory to the Declaration of Independence. I’d like to refer us to a little quote out of that:

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

But wait, if we are all created equal, then why are some people so damn special that they have certain rights (the right to marry and adopt for example) but others don’t? And I believe the First Amendment in the U.S. Constitution says:

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

So why is religion playing such a HUGE part in all of this? Not everyone in this country believes the same thing and not all religions are completely against equal rights for everyone. If we all believed the same thing or all religions said the same thing regarding gays and our rights, I could understand letting religious beliefs play a part. We don’t though and the damn U.S. Constitution even says that no religion is allowed to be preferred over the other so how can we base any reasoning on what our religions tell us? We legally can’t so people really need to come up with new reasons for why we shouldn’t be allowed to marry (or adopt in the case of Arkansas or anywhere else that has bs laws like that).

Anyway, I’ve really gotten completely off track from what I had originally planned to say so onto the adoption part…

The marriage part doesn’t bother me nearly as much as the adoption part. If there is one thing I want more than anything in my life, it’s to be able to have a family. I want to be able to have my boyfriend (or husband if we can ever get things that far) and my children, I shouldn’t have to choose one over the other. Why would it be so bad for a gay couple to adopt a child anyway? Are we encapable of loving and caring for the child like a straight couple can? No. So why is it so bad? At least the child would have a family, people who can love and take care of them. Isn’t that what’s important here? I would like to think so but obviously the state of Arkansas feels I’m wrong. So out of that, the ones who really get screwed over here are the children. With as much as I feel a gay couple not being able to adopt is wrong, it seems even more wrong to tell a child that they have to wait even longer for a family because the ones who want to adopt them are gay. All I can say really is thank God that it’s just Arkansas and not the entire country that has that ridiculous law.

Anyway, this turned out a lot longer than I had planned so I apologize to anyone who reads through this entire post. I also want to say thank you to anyone who reads it as well. These are issues that don’t affect just me but so many other people in this country so I appreciate very much that you are willing to read my point of view and possibly even consider what I had to say.

EDIT: It is just Arkansas with that stupid law right? I’ve never really looked into it since I couldn’t exactly adopt right now anyway so I can’t say for sure. Answers please someone!! lol.

- Trystan